The shit hath hit-eth the fan-eth
Remember the situation I posted about here? Well…
Yeah.
She’s pregnant.
I just found this out a little while ago, as I was driving back to work from the dentist.
First of all, thank GOD I agreed to keep this blog totally private and anonymous because I really need a place to escape to right now and get some thoughts out. I’m so glad I haven’t told B or any of my friends about my blog. Holy be-jesus, I hope my secret blog stays just that way.
OMG OMG OMG OMG.
When she told me, I just sat in stunned silence. Then I said “Please tell me you’re joking. You’re joking, right? You’re totally pulling my leg?”
Her and I have this really funny back-and-forth thing we do where we try to shock the shit out of each other sometimes. Yeah, that joke has kind of lost its appeal now.
“Umm, no. I’m pregnant. I found out on Christmas Eve.”
How do you react in this situation? My situation that you all have been so gracious to comment on and provide advice about, just got even stickier. But fuck my situation — imagine hers! She’s with a guy who she has ADMITTED to being unhappy with. Now throw a baby into that and what do you get? A mess. Don’t get me wrong, I love babies and I think they are wonderful. She’s almost 25 years old. She’s amazing and responsible and she’ll be a great mother. She has a fantastic family who will be there for her in every way. I will be there for her too, but holy shit. I can’t help but feel totally sad about the situation. It might make me bad to say that, but at least I’m being totally, 100% honest.
She’s trapped.
I kept asking her if she’s okay because let’s be honest, she didn’t sound okay. She sounded frightened, worried, overwhelmed. All things that I would be feeling if I were in the situation too.
I just can’t help but think a great big WHAT THE FUCK, UNIVERSE?
Seriously, WHAT THE FUCK?
I need a drink.
Holy shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!!! :O There’s not really much you can do but be there for her. Man, I’m really sorry about that. I hope things work out in the best way possible.
holy crap! that sucks!! she has got to be scared as hell right now. hopefully she’ll be able to open up to you about how she’s feeling because i’m sure she’ll need an outlet.
Ohhhhh maannnn. Thinking about unplanned pregnancies make me delirious with worry. I actually groaned out loud while reading this. I feel really bad for her. Just keep saying to yourself “could be worse, could be worse, could be worse…”. Good luck, man.
Oh my god! I am just catching up now. I can’t believe it. I had the same reaction as Lisa. I just groaned because unplanned pregnancies are really scary! I hope your friend all the best and I’m sure you’ll be there to see her through it all.
Hi there. I just stumbled across your blog on the 20sb about our favorite posts of 2007 and I like what I read so far! The story of you and B reminds me a lot of my story with The Ex.
Unplanned pregnancies can be devastating, especially when you aren’t happy in the relationship. Hopefully everything will work out for the best for your friend!
Wow – it is overwhelming isn’t it?I guess all you can do is be supportive and be a the good friend that you are..it is sad that she is with someone who is making her so unhappy in so many ways.
holy heck.
When I don’t know what to say (or don’t want to say what I’m really thinking), I find it useful to ask open-ended questions like: “And how do YOU feel about it?”
works like a charm everytime.
Though vodka may also assist in this circumstance.
Oh man, that’s a horrible situation. I hope everything works out.
Oh wow she is probably really upset and confused. She might just need to hear all her options, cause sometimes we just need someone to tell us its okay to make a decision you thought you never would. keep or not. Hope she is happy with what works out. (maybe she’ll see the guy is definitely not keepable, and make like a tree)
Oh my gosh, how weird that you just posted about her situation and then THIS! I agree with what everyone else has said…just be there for her right now. Yikes…good luck with everything.
That’s awful. Like everyone else said, I hope things work out.
Yeah I wish that I had kept my blog secret too. I’m almost afraid to write certain things in mine because I’m afraid that some people might read it.
I’m sorry to hear about that. Not really a great way to start a new year.
Good luck.
Valerie – I hope things work out too, thanks for the comment!
Michelle – You read my mind. I’m thinking she needs an outlet. I told her I’d like to see her this weekend so we can talk and “catch up”. I really mean that I need to see what her feelings are without her jerk of a boyfriend around. He was lurking in the background every time I talked to her over the long weekend. Grrrrr.
Lisa – I groaned too. LOL! And, I’m almost embarrassed to admit this, but I’m totally afraid to have sex right now. I can’t even think about it without thinking BABIES BABIES BABIES every time it is presenting itself as an opportunity.
Hope – Scary is only the beginning. I hope I can be a good friend without showing just how disappointed I am. I tend to wear my emotions all over my face.
Hazel – Thank you!
Princess – It’s even sadder that she’s admitted he makes her so unhappy and that we both know it, but it’s not being talked about. All I keep thinking is “You don’t have to be with him just because you have a baby.” She’s trapped and she’s going to settle. And I do not like it.
Miss A – I think this calls for something stronger than vodka. I’m thinking tequila. haha!
Jamie – you and me both, girl.
Eyes – Yeah, make like a tree and LEAVE! I wish. I’m afraid this is more of the kind of situation where she thinks the baby will be a band-aid for all of their problems. We all know how situations like THAT end up, I’m afraid.
Virginia – I’m trying. But I’m so disappointed.
Larissa – awful, awful, awful. I need a vacation.
Spunk – you know, anonymity is a blessing. I hope that you don’t feel the need to hold back. Hopefully you’ll find a good balance.
Hey man,
Sorry to hear about the shit your going through, but really being honest is the best way to go. At least you won;t make a bigger mess out of an already difficult situation. Just try to be there for her but do not make any promises you do not intend to keep….my 2 cents worth