Comments on: Dysfunction at its finest

By: Vent Session « Chasing Paradise

Vent Session « Chasing Paradise — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:12:41 +0000

[...] 15 07 2008 I’ve already blogged about my batshit-insane sister here. But my friends, that is just the TIP of the [...]

By: eyesaswindows

eyesaswindows — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:04:48 +0000

I’m so sorry sweets. I hate to be very harsh, but I’m angry and about to get sick to my stomach at the pain I feel for your brother-in-law. I hope when he finds out (cause he better one way or another…) that he can grow and move on.

PS I’m one of those people who feels that the people who support you, love you, respect your ideas, and repsect your feelings… aren’t always the ones called family. My priorities lie with the people who do these things…

Hope you can find some kind of closer and that it passes easily

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Update « Chasing Paradise — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 17:24:38 +0000

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By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 16:26:49 +0000

I’m sorry you’ve been dragged into this mess =/ I agree with you about the adultery – it’s an awful, life-ruining action that hurts so many, often permanently. *If* you want out of a marriage, go about that first, and *then* pick up another relationship or whatever. To do otherwise is dishonorable and disrespectful, in my opinion. That being said… it does sound like your sister needs you right now – not that you should play into her affair and “make nice” with the other man, but maybe just to try to keep her grounded and to think about what she’s doing. A voice of reason sort of thing. Ack. I don’t know. I’m sorry this is happening.

By: Larissa

Larissa — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 06:21:36 +0000

Ugh…the entire situation is bad bad bad. Sorry to hear that you’re in the middle of the mess. We all have our ugly things to deal with, huh?

By: nicoleantoinette

nicoleantoinette — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 05:31:26 +0000

This is such an intense situation to be in the middle of, or to even have knowledge of. I agree that you can’t be the one to tell anyone, because it’s up to your sister to do it herself. But if this drags on and on and she doesn’t? I think you can definitely give her an “if you don’t tell them, I will” type of ultimatum.

And when the truth does come out, the best thing you can do is be there for your niece.

By: Michelle and the City

Michelle and the City — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 21:11:32 +0000

WOW. i don’t even know what i would do if i were you. not that there is necessarily anything to “do” but i don’t know if i could stay quiet. being caught in the middle sucks. have you tried talking to your sister about how you disapprove of what she’s doing?

By: Don

Don — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 20:24:13 +0000

There is no excuse for her behavior. She needs to tell her husband the truth, and I think you should tell her to do that before you do.
If you really love her and her husband, then you need to be fair with both of them.
I had an emotional affair, and I wish I had been found out earlier, instead of getting in deeper.

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 20:16:04 +0000

I cannot imagine the situation that you are in. Reading about it makes me sick to my stomach, but that’s because I will never understand why or how people can cheat after taking vows.

To put you in the middle, though, is awful. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

By: verybadcat

verybadcat — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 20:06:01 +0000

I agree about adultery. You don’t know how things have been for her, or what the marriage is like, or how he is. Do you know what it’s like to lay next to someone in bed and wonder if this is all you’re going to get out of life? Or the incredible loneliness and desperation that a bad marriage creates? I understand your feelings, but your sister needs you, at least as a sounding board, and she’s the only sister you have. Maybe, is this bothering you so much because it makes you realize that ANYONE can have a marriage fall apart on them or fail to resist temptation? I’m just saying- I have a little sister, and if I was going through what your sister is, I would need you. I would need your love and your understanding, even if it came with some boundaries and judgment. Losing my husband and my sister would kill me.